If you want to change a marriage, change the man.
With the recent influx of solid, gospel-centered literature on marriage, Justin Buzzard comes out with a short, extremely helpful supplement that does not disappoint. Men are charged with the responsibility to “love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25) and because of this, men are help responsible for their wives’ actions and well-being (see Genesis 3).
My first reaction was that this book would be a “you need to step up, cause you suck” sort of book [after all, the cover is a stern finger pointing directly at the reader], but I am pleased to say that this book is a sobering wake up call for men, written with practical steps to implement and respond to it’s content. When it comes down to it, this book lovingly comes alongside men to encourage and equip them to love their wives well, with the most central theme necessary: the Gospel.
One of my favorite quotes from the book is found on page 66: “You crush a man if you only talk to him about responsibility. You empower a man if you talk to him about responsibility— about living life in response to the power and ability of God.” It is necessary for us to realize that it is impossible to lead, love, and honor our wives as the Bible commands us to while acting in our own power–inherently separate from the Gospel. It takes godly submission, humility, and urgency to lead well, and this book helps show the significance of loving your wife well, and leading her in the ways of the Gospel.
I definitely recommend adding this short book (only 148 pages including the notes)to your collection on marriage and gospel-centered relationships. You won’t be disappointed.